Serene Jones on mourning

from Trauma + Grace

mourning: a disposition in which your heart and mind give in to the loss and consent to dwell in the trauma with as much attention as can be mustered. it requires acknowledging how much was lost, how deeply it matters, how unstable the world has become in the aftermath, and how difficult it feels to be ever moving forward…the gift of mourning is that fully awakening to the depth of loss enables you to at least learn, perhaps for the first time, that you can hold the loss: you can bear the terrors of heart and body and still see your way forward with eyes wide open.