Simon Chan on intimacy

from Spiritual Theology

our world glamorizes person intimacy.  but intimacy is more talked about than experienced because it is a painful process.  it involves risks, possible misunderstanding, vulnerability, perhaps even losing something of oneself to the other person.  relating to the other as person means giving him or her the space to be truly a person.  it means foregoing the temptation to impose our own will on the other.  there is joy in personal relationship, but the joy comes by way of death to self.  giving, listening and personal intimacy are painful processes, but they are also renewing processes that form our communal character.  they teach us what it means to ‘bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ.’